The Grieving Stages of a Former Stay at Home Mom

The transition from being home with your child all day, everyday, to working full time without seeing them is not only hard and tiring, but sad. Separation anxiety and missing your child is so strong! The routine goes from always tending to your child to giving them to other people for the whole day without knowing everything that goes on. And that is scary and heartbreaking to an anxious person.

These are the mental stages a mother can go through when transitioning into a working mom:

1: The First Day

This is surprisingly not the hardest day. However, your child will be on your mind all day and when they cry when you pick them up makes you sad. You do get somewhat distracted by the new job.

2: The First Night

You dread having to go back and cry because you will miss them so much.

3: The Second Day

This is hardest day because you know how the day will feel and your child is still confused why they are being left even if though they are distracted by the toys when you drop them off.

4: The First Full Week

The last day of the week your child is done being there. You may see more crying than the first day. It will make you cry in the bathroom before you start work.

5: The Second Week

You feel a lot better this week and can focus on your job. Your child has adapted fairly well to the routine. There are little tears now and then, but a lot of progress has been made for both parties.

6: The Constant Reminder That You Don’t See Everything Anymore

You have to accept that you no longer get to see everything your child learns or does for the first time or see their development first hand. This makes you sad.

7: Acceptance

You are confident in his caregivers and know that at this time you are doing what is best for your family. You know your child is learning a lot, gaining social skills, and having fun. Someday you will be able to be home with your child/children again and in the meantime enjoy life.

 

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