You may be here to find answers to your exhausting problem: your child will not sleep through the night and you’re about to check into a psych ward. You would rather put duct tape on your sunburn and rip it off than sleep another night waking up 5 times.
The solution is neither close nor far. Because your child will be ready when they are ready. Guess what mommy, the magic solution is patience. Or you just drag your feet throughout the process like I did.
You can go onto your favorite Facebook mommy group and beg for answers. You can try everything under the sun like essential oils, music, bedtime routine, daddy help, or whatever you find on the magical google. But he will not sleep until he is ready.
When will they be ready?! That is the most irritating, hair-pulling, and exhausting question a mom can ask herself.
It does have a lot to do with circumstances. Do you share a room? Do you breastfeed? Do they have health issues? Do you sing to them every night? Many things can contribute to their sleep habits. Or you have no issues and get the beauty sleep we all envy and will sell our left leg for.
Here are a few ideas that can help your child create good sleeping habits. Remember all families are different.
- Establish a consistant bedtime routine. This helped us create a calm time for our son to know it is time to sleep. It helped him to fall asleep on his own. It took months for him to finally sleep through the night but this helped the process.
- Find a sleeping helper. We put an Eeyore in his bed.
- If your child is past 16 months and they still breastfeed at night like our son did, you can slowly wean a feed at a time until you are fully weaned. This also prevents pain. This was the only method that helped our son finally sleep through the night. Do what works for you.
- Comfortable temperature. If it’s too hot they wake up. Too cold they wake up.
- Night time diapers. These have helped us because the pee won’t wake him.
- Dinner about an hr before bed. This helps keep him full all night.
These are just my experiences. If you’re going through sleepless nights, I feel you. I left my keys multiple times in my locked apartment because of sleep deprivation. I’ve locked our son in our car. I’ve tripped multiple times in the middle of the night. The list is long. Not to mention patience is rare.
There is light at the end of the tunnel. Find support and remember this won’t last. Remember if something doesn’t work, don’t loose hope and don’t feel like you’re failing. Always ask for help. You got this!